By – Shane Pruitt @shane_pruitt78
In 2011, a documentary-drama series started on Animal Planet, called Finding Bigfoot. A guy named Matt, who founded the Bigfoot Field Researchers Organization (B.F.R.O.), and his team of investigators traveled North America to search for the ever-elusive creature, known as Bigfoot. Or more affectionately known as Sasquatch.
Early on, I was enthralled by this show. It felt like I was a part of this “nerd herd,” and I was on the hunt with them. I was convinced that these experts (and me from the safety of my recliner) were finally going to find Bigfoot. My fascination lasted for a whole seven episodes, and then I realized that we were never going to find him. He doesn’t exist. It is a figment of our imagination.
Yet, this team remains convinced he is real. Every broken branch, vague knocking sound, and flock of birds being scared by something is hardcore evidence for them that he is out there somewhere. I gave up, but they have continued on for nine whole seasons. Still no luck.
Just like most of us doesn’t believe that Bigfoot really exists, sadly, many women don’t believe that a good husband really exists either. Is a good husband a myth? Are they urban legends that teams of women are looking for, but eventually give up with no avail?
Here is the difference between a good Sasquatch and a good husband. Good husbands really do exist. They are out there. They really aren’t that elusive. However, if one is found, do whatever you can to never let him go. Many great women have found some really good husbands. If you find a woman who has found a good husband, you will know it. You can hear the evidence of him in her voice and see his presence in her smile. The effects of a good husband can be felt for generations to come.
Nevertheless, how do you know if you have found one? What does a good husband look like?
First of all, unlike what TV commercials tells us, it has nothing to do with how much he can bench-press, how loudly he can belch, or how many beers he can drink. Also, it has little to do with how much money he makes, how defined his six-pack is (he may have more of a one-round-pack), or how fast his vehicle is. There are some deeper distinctives and more attractive qualities to look for.
HANDS: A good husband has hands that are used for working hard. “Let the favor of the Lord our God be upon us and establish the work of our hands upon us; yes, establish the work of our hands!” (Psalm 90:17). Every man has been gifted by God to serve the Kingdom and to provide for his family. A good man uses his hands for his God-given job, but he also saves some energy to use those hands to serve his wife and to play with his children when he gets home from a hard day’s work.
FEET: A good husband has feet that follow Jesus. Any man that is faithfully following Jesus is a man worth following. The best spiritual leaders are those that are also the best spiritual followers. “Again Jesus spoke to them, saying, “I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will not walk in darkness, but will have the light of life,” (John 8:12).
HEART: A good husband has a heart that beats with love for Jesus, and for his family. The best way for a man to faithfully love his wife and children is for him to faithfully love Jesus with all his heart, soul, and mind. “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind,” (Matthew 22:37).
MIND: A good husband has a pure mind that is not clouded by lustful thoughts for other women. Also, his mind is not distracted with coveting his neighbor’s possessions. He has a mind that meditates on Scripture, and is thankful for what the Lord has given him – a good wife and good possessions that meet his needs. “We destroy arguments and every lofty opinion raised against the knowledge of God, and take every thought captive to obey Christ,” (2 Corinthians 10:5).
SHOULDERS: A good husband has broad shoulders that aren’t easily offended. He is strong enough to lovingly lead and protect his family, yet his shoulders are tender enough for his wife to cry on when she has been hurt by others. Often, she is not looking for words to fix the situation, but rather, shoulders that are present for her to lean on. “Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ,” (Galatians 6:2).
EYES: A good man has eyes that look to the Lord for guidance. The pressures of being a good husband, a good man, and a good father can be overwhelming for anyone. However, the good news is that God is not expecting any man to do this by his own power. A good husband looks to God, and His Scriptures for direction. “I lift up my eyes to the hills. From where does my help come? My help comes from the Lord, who made heaven and earth,” (Psalm 121:1–2).
One thing we must all remember, whether you are a husband, or you’re married to one – a good husband is not a perfect husband. There are no perfect people, and it’s not fair to hold husbands to an unfair standard.
At the end of the day, a really good husband is a sinner that has been saved by a perfect Savior, and has been adopted by a good, good Father.
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